It Takes Two (or more) to Communicate

There is more to communication than you just waiting for someone else to initiate contact with you.
There is more to communication than you just thinking you will make that telephone call or making that personal visit tomorrow.
There is more to communication than you just saying to another person, “Give me a call sometime.”

There is more to communication than just you telling someone something.
There is more to communication than just you writing (or texting or keyboarding) a message to someone.
There is more to communication than just you making yourself be heard.

For real communication to take place, there must be more than one party involved in the mutual exchange of thoughts and ideas.
Note: the word “mutual” in that sentence.

I suggest you read some webpage excerpts that I am placing below; and, I also strongly suggest you read the entire article by following the embedded links.

“Effective communication involves several different aspects. Although verbal communication is the most common way that people correspond, there are many other specific characteristics involved in the interaction. Let’s take listening, for instance.”
That is the first part of the first paragraph of Effective Communication – A Two Way Street by Michael Jeffreys from Ezine @rticles®.

“Business leaders consistently list being able to communicate effectively as a major key to success. Industrial psychologists have documented that effective communication is the lifeblood of good relationships with business associates, customers, vendors and investors. Yet, the American Management Association reports that 90% of all problems in an organization is a direct result of poor communication. Marriage and family counselors also point to poor communication as a common reason for interpersonal conflicts.”
That is the entire first paragraph of the article “Communication is a Two-Way Street” from the Leadership/Management section of Motivation Matters Library from (UPDATE as of 2/1/13: The web page to the aforementioned article no longer exists; and therefore, the embedded link to it has been removed.)

“Communication involves how we express our thoughts, ideas, and feelings to others, including what we say and how we say it. But when we communicate with others, we also communicate attitudes, values, priorities, and beliefs. No matter what we actually say to other people in words, we also send messages about what we think of them, what we think of ourselves, and whether or not we’re being sincere and genuine in what we say. Our non-verbal communication — those things we don’t say with words, but with our gestures, our facial expressions, and our attitude — speak volumes.”
That is the second paragraph from Effective Communication and Healthy Relationships by Phil Rich, Ed.D., MSW, an article that appears in SelfhelpMagazine.

Incidentally, this is a topic of which I have written several times before in Roland’s Ramblings. As a refresher, just a few of my writings on this subject are:
Communication and Leadership
Selective Perception

Oh, what the heck!
Another problem that crops up in preventing good, sound, effective communication is a little thing called ANGER.
To touch upon that subject, I suggest you read Ridding Yourself of Anger from the blog As the Spirit Moves Me.


About Roland Louis Hansen

I have been: an organization development consultant; a college-level instructor of political science, psychology, and sociology; a public administrator; a social worker; an elected official; a political operative; a community activist; a union official; a shoe salesman and manager, a factory worker; a fast food restaurant employee; and, a custodian.
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One Response to It Takes Two (or more) to Communicate

  1. Nina Amir says:

    Thanks for the mention….again…Roland. I liked your post a lot. I studied communication in college as a magazine journalism major in the S.I. Newhouse School of Public Communications. It definitely takes two to communicate: a sender and a receiver. I wrote a post recently at my other blog, Write Nonfiction NOW!, about how audiences have to actually hear what we say. That’s an interesting aspect of communication, too. They have to emotionally identify with what we say and “see” it in their minds. We accomplish this by telling stories. You can read the post here: Keep up the great work.


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