A spiteful person is one who is filled with and/or acts in ways that show spite. This type of person has a desire to vex, annoy, or injure other persons. A spiteful person is purposely and intentionally malignant and malicious.
I believe a spiteful person wants to hurt another person in order to feel better about himself or herself because of low self-esteem and/or as the result of some form of mental illness.
Spiteful people want to play mind games with other people.* These game players, as I call them, want to draw others into a “he said, she said” scenario** of one-upmanship, and then, play the role of the victim in order to gain sympathy from even more people in their pathetic attempt to get even more attention.
* ref: Why do some people play mind games with other people?
** ref: Heresy or hearsay
I do not get into those games when I am the target of a spiteful person. Generally, more often than not, I acknowledge and inform that person that he or she did something spiteful (although I do not use the word spiteful) to me, let them know that I did not understand why I had been a target of such, and ask him or her why he or she did it. If the spiteful person responds in such a way as to continue his or her spiteful way, I respond simply by no longer responding, i.e. I ignore the continued attempts to goad me into playing the game.
So the question is: How do you cure a spiteful person? Just click on that question to go over to read a web page that provides one answer.
Do you know what is especially difficult when it comes to this subject? Family. You can choose who to have as your friends; but, you cannot choose who is related to you by blood or marriage. Now the question becomes one that is about: “How to Cope With Spiteful Family Members.” As before, just click on the topic and follow the embedded hyperlink to go over to read a web page that provides several approaches in response to the troublesome, problematic situation.